When Nothing Works: The Key to Calming Tough Moments
Even when you’re using the right strategies, some moments still feel impossible. That’s because kids don’t just need strategies—they need practice, patience, and co-regulation.
✨ Instant Strategy:
Instead of trying to solve every problem, focus on what’s within your control:
“I see you’re struggling. I’m here, and I can help if you need me.” “You don’t have to fix this right now. Let’s take a break and come back to it.”
🛠 Proactive Tool:
Set predictable boundaries around help and decision-making. Instead of jumping in to solve problems, try:
Ask: “Do you want ideas, or do you just want me to listen?”
This builds self-awareness and prevents emotional overwhelm.
🧠 The Neuroscience:
When kids struggle, they often experience nervous system overload—their body and brain are in a heightened state of stress. When we stay calm and offer presence instead of immediate solutions, we help their brain shift from fight-or-flight mode back to regulation. Over time, this teaches them how to self-regulate in high-stress situations.
