Struggling with Boundaries? Here’s Why Pushback is Actually a Good Sign
Parents often think pushback means their child isn’t listening, but in reality, testing boundaries is how kids learn to trust them.
✨ Instant Strategy:
Instead of debating, stick to the boundary while giving them space to express frustration:
“I know you’re upset that we’re leaving the park. It makes sense—you were having fun. It’s okay to be mad, and we’re still heading home.”
🛠 Proactive Tool:
Set predictable boundaries around help and decision-making. Instead of jumping in to solve problems, try:
“I’ll sit with you while you work on it. Let me know if you want help.”
“I can help you brainstorm, but the choice is yours.”
🧠 The Neuroscience:
When a boundary is inconsistent, the brain sees it as negotiable and keeps testing to find a different outcome. However, when boundaries are predictable and calmly enforced, the brain eventually learns that rules are safe, not threatening. This allows the nervous system to relax, reducing future pushback and increasing emotional resilience.
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