The one question every leader (and parent) should be asking
Connection isn’t something we guess at. It’s something we assess.
Whether you’re raising kids, managing a classroom, leading a team, or caring for clients—we all need to feel valued to stay engaged, regulated, and resilient.
But here’s the truth: Most people have no idea how their behaviour is landing for others… until they ask.
That’s why at CAMP, we believe in building relationships (and teams) on curiosity, not assumptions.
⚒️ 3 Questions to Build Connection
Whether you’re a parent, teacher, supervisor, or support worker—ask:
“What am I (or we) currently doing that makes you feel valued?”
“What’s something small that would help you feel more connected?”
“When do you feel like your voice really matters here?”
These questions unlock psychological safety—a key ingredient in motivation and mental wellness.
They don’t require you to fix everything. They just show that you care, that you’re paying attention, and that you’re willing to learn.
🧠 The Neuroscience
When people feel seen, heard, and safe—their nervous system relaxes.
Cortisol drops, the vagus nerve activates, and the prefrontal cortex (the part of the brain responsible for focus, empathy, and problem-solving) stays online.
That’s when learning, healing, and teamwork can truly happen.
✨ This Week’s Strategy
Choose one role you play this week—parent, teammate, leader, educator.
Ask just one person:
“What’s one thing I do (or could do) that helps you feel more valued here?”
Listen without interrupting.
You might be surprised by how small and doable their answer is.
Why It Matters
Organizations, schools, and families that assess connection instead of assuming it are the ones that retain talent, build trust, and prevent burnout.
When people feel connected, they don’t just survive—they show up fully.
Let’s stop guessing. Let’s start asking.
